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Exhaustion in a time of chaos

Unless you are black, you do not understand what it is like to be black. From being born in an environment that automatically assumes you are a criminal when you’re walking down the street with your hands in your pocket, to walking into a job interview knowing that your chances of getting the job is hindered by the color of your skin; this is the world they live in. The promise of the American dream is as far-fetched to the black community, as is winning the lottery for the rest of us. 

Police brutality. Racism. Looters. Rioters. Peaceful marches. Black history. American History. Modern day slavery. Mass incarceration. Donald Trump. There has been 15 days of nation-wide demonstrations for demands of justice-system reform sparked by the killing of George Floyd. The officers involved have been arrested and awaiting chargers. Yet, everyday, there are more bodies willing to risk the health pandemic to protest in support of #BlackLivesMatter. Some might ask, why are people still on the streets if the officers have been charged? The answer is exhaustion. 

How many people have to be wrongfully killed to shine a spotlight on the broken justice system in the country? The black community is exhausted: exhausted of defending their own bodies; exhausted of carrying the invisible burden of other people’s fear; exhausted of having to defend their own emotions to their fellow countrymen who imposed the experiences that led to those emotions. The rest of us are exhausted: exhausted from a health pandemic that forced us to socially distance ourselves from one another, exhausted from another death at the hands of deep rooted systemic racism, exhausted from the 24 hour news cycle that does nothing to our mental health except enhance anxiety and stress. 

Everyone’s reasoning behind the exhaustion might differ, yet the emotions are the same because exhaustion is a human emotion. We carry the sadness of hate in our eyes, the heaviness of systemic racism in our hearts and the weight of the change on our shoulder. Some write about it, some talk about it, some try to ignore it, and still, the heaviness from the uncertainty and the uncontrollable looms large. 

Austin Channing Brown describes reconciliation as “the pursuit of the impossible-an upside-down world where those who are powerful have relinquished that power to the margins…reimagining an entirely different way of being with one another.”  I want to believe that these demonstrations today are a step towards reconciliation. However, as history has shown: systems of oppression are durable with the ability to reinvent themselves right under your nose. Regardless, we keep fighting. As Brown reminds us: “the march toward change has been grueling, but it is real. And all it has ever taken was the transformed- the people of color confronting past and present to imagine a new future, and the handful of white people willing to release indifference and join the struggle.” 

Joining the struggle has its consequences. It means allowing ourselves to be troubled by injustice, to be provoked by anger when we witness another victim of the system whisper “I can’t breathe”, to have no tolerance of hate, no excuses for racist decisions and no contentment in the status quo. It requires being resilient, sacrificing comfort, taking action and choosing justice, every single day. Despite the uncomfortable truth of political influences on current day policies, we have to continue marching.

Only then can we keep hope alive for all those who are exhausted. 

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 TED Talk: Baratunde Thurston – How to deconstruct racism, one headline at a time 
Words spoken by Glenn E. Martin, in the film “13th: From Slave to Criminal with One Amendment”
I’m Still here: Black Dignity in a World Made for Whiteness. Author: Austin Channing Brown 

In Memory of Movement: My journey to becoming a Personal Trainer

30 years ago, I stepped onto this vast filled world with eyes wide open.

Sometime in these first 10 years of my life, I learned how to walk, run, crawl and play. Though my parents were not the most active back then, they instilled within me a routine of movement.

20 years ago, I started playing basketball. As far as I can remember, I hustled after every loose ball like my life depended on it. I sucked up to my coaches to get noticed, to stay noticed, and to be the best.

18 years ago in 7th grade, I was recruited to practice with the high school varsity basketball team. I thought I had made it. With custom Reebok basketball shoes, traveling South East Asia with the high school team, and 4-5 practices a week – I was proud.

16 years ago, I made it to high school. Crappy grades and all. Failing the tiger mom expectation of straight A’s but I was thriving with my fellow athletes on the varsity ball team. Throughout high school, we played tournaments in Shanghai, Beijing, Korea, Japan, Hong Kong. I’ll never forget the vivid memories of tournament home games in which we ran out from the locker room to a gymnasium full of family, friends and strangers rooting for us. Nerves running high, we only had one option – to play as hard as with can with class.

14 years ago, I had played the best tournament and game of my life. 30+ points as a high school junior, made 19 out of 20 free throws, and played 90% of every game. We didn’t win, but for the first time in my life, I knew I played well and felt I deserved recognition as a MVP of the team. I didn’t get it. From a combination of being burnt out from practices, and being upset about the MVP award, I quit.

Little did I realize, I had so much to learn. Regardless of how good I was, there was so much more to learn. I had full support in my decision to quit but at times, I wish someone had forced me to stay on the team.

13 years ago, I made varsity rugby in my senior year of high school. And thus, my career in contact sports began.

12 years ago, I played Rugby with the Cambodian National Team playing against other National teams in South East Asia.

10 years ago, I began my career as a collegiate athlete playing Quidditch. In an attempt to get stronger (without any knowledge of strength and conditioning training), I started coaching my team in and out of the gym (early morning runs, weight training days, and keeping accountability). In between crossing state lines to play tournaments, I held wine and cheese parties in my loft with the one rule that the team had to dress up with class. Being a part of the Quidditch community was by far my most vivid memory in my 4 years of college.

Thus prompted my goal of becoming a personal trainer. Or more so, getting a certification for my own knowledge.

7 years ago, I began my sporadic career journey in hospitality and property management living in California and Austin, Texas. Through it all, one thing remained constant – my commitment to fitness, health and movement.

3 years ago, I had to leave Austin Texas due to a lack of visa status. I was disappointed, heart broken, and lost. I had finally found a place I called home.

But the universe molds us in ways we don’t even realize.

That same year, I decided to find a job in the fitness industry while studying for a personal trainer license. It was merely a way to keep myself occupied as I tried to figure out where to move to next: physically and in my career.

2 years ago, I passed the American Council of Exercise Personal Trainer certification and began working as a full time trainer. Despite my fear and anxiety of getting no clients due to a lack of knowledge and experience, my roster built up within the blink of an eye.

I want to say I kicked ass with all my clients and got amazing results, but that would be a lie. As a novice personal trainer, I made mistakes, at times I coached programs that were not individualized and I promised goals I couldn’t help them reach.

1 year ago, I found myself at another cross road. Being burnt out from the personal training hours & having no work/life balance, I was looking for my next move.

I knew coaching wasn’t completely out of my life, but I was definitely uncertain about it as a career.

9 months ago, I rediscovered my passion for coaching. An old friend from 10+ years ago reached out from seeing my training videos about virtual training. She lives in Mexico. Our vibes resonate and vibrate on the same frequency, and has been ever since we met each other. I happily agreed to train virtually. She’s reaching her 100th session with me, and our sessions have blossomed into consistent space in which we build strength physically and mentally on a regular basis.

5 months ago, I was blessed with the opportunity to work with a small group training studio in Toronto with incredibly knowledgable and experienced trainers. I was unsure at first due to my innate fear of burning out, and hitting the same road block I reached just a year before that. However, I was learning immensely from fellow trainers, and with my rediscovery of my passion for coaching – knew I needed to dive in.

TODAY, I am virtually coaching Kettlebell classes, Strength & Conditioning classes, and training 1-on-1 clients on a regular basis. I am sleeping more than I ever have. I feel more mentally focused than I ever have. I feel and look stronger than I ever have been.

I am more determined than ever to inspire and guide you through your journey to feeling strong and being strong. This movement journey has changed my life, and it can change yours too.

I offer strength & conditioning classes for all levels 4 times a week, group accountability sessions to help you reach your goals (fitness and non-fitness goals inclusive), and private 1-on-1 training. Virtual & in-person (Toronto, Ontario). For more information, email jlamcoaching@gmail.com.

Are you ready to take the leap?

15 minute procrastination post

These days, when I’m not working out, I’m studying. I recently started a continuing education program for Data Analytics at The Chang School (Ryerson) in Toronto. As someone without a statistics background, I often feel like I’m playing catch up to everyone else in class. However, that was expected when I decided to start this program.

With data analytics as a profession that is in high demand, there is a certain amount of competitiveness as we speed through the materials in this program in hopes to land the job of our dreams in 8 months. No, I don’t know where it’ll bring me yet nor do I feel like I’m going to be at all competitive compared to everyone else BUT I do know that I will find a way.

I always do.

At the end of the day, it is NOT about a fancy tech job at the end of the tunnel, but about how much we’ve learned. What does the journey look like?

In fact, with a fast track program that finishes in 8 months, my first set of classes are coming to an end in less than 2 weeks. That is 7 weeks for a set of 3 classes. Midterms in the 4th week and finals 2 weeks later. The knowledge I have gained in the last 6 weeks have already been more than I could imagine.

Dedication. Persistence. Humility. Hard work.

Daily values I practice to keep pushing forward.

Breaking Mental Habits

Routines and habits – that’s what our lives are surrounded by. Type into google “routines for the most successful people” and you’ll get thousands of articles and tips on what to do to start your morning right. Richard Branson, Gary Vaynerchuk, Warren Buffet, Jeff Bezos, Elon Musk, all of them wake up between 5-7 AM to start their routines.

How often have we read those articles, stoked for the first 3 days of trying out the routine, and then fall off the wagon as soon as we had one day of laziness where we decided to snooze for an extra 10 minutes in replacement for the routine of exercise, meditation, etc?

I know I’ve done that, just this week as a matter of fact. However, it’s a daily choice I continue to make every morning- some days I succeed, some days I fail but this post is not about a morning routine. Instead, it’s about the mental habits we have constructed that impacts our routines. When we are subconscious about our habits, we will easily fall into the trap of actions that don’t serve us. 

99.9% of actions we take and things we say are a result of our unconscious thought patterns. We are taught at a young age to brush our teeth twice a day, and (hopefully) most of us have continued to do that. However, have we ever challenged that notion of the need to brush our teeth twice a day? Or the need to brush our teeth in general? Thankfully, we know for a fact that brushing or flossing our teeth improves our dental hygiene so (please) continue to use that toothbrush but most days we don’t think about whether we need to do it or not- we just do.

What about picking up the phone as soon as you open your eyes and scrolling through social media? Do you say to yourself every morning: “I know this is harmful to my productivity and will take at least 5-10 minutes of my time I could use to hydrate and mobilize BUT I’m going to sit here and look at instagram anyway” If so, good for you because you are aware of the long-term harm you are inflicting on yourself, but you have made a conscious choice. If not, you’re NOT alone. For most of us, it has become a habit to use our phones as an alarm clock, and a subconscious habit to check our email + social media before we even step foot off our bed.

Similarly, when was the last time you told yourself “oh I don’t like that because I’m not good at it” or “I can’t do it cause I suck”? We live in a society in which we are praised and awarded for success, as we should. However, it also creates a subconscious dislike towards things we are not good at or unsuccessful at. This was my experience with certain subjects in school.

As I’ve grown and adopted a more conscious thought pattern through my readings, podcast listenings and the community I surround myself with- I’ve realized that I’ve been feeding myself the truth that I will not be good at any job surrounding those subjects. Is it the truth? Or is it simply the story I’ve been telling myself? 

What if I fed myself a different story? What does that look like?

The truth is, the conscious thought pattern I have to replace with the subconscious is: “You may suck at it now. You may get frustrated throughout the process, but stay consistent, work like heck and no matter what you will be 50% further than you are now.” 

As Tom Bilyeu from Impact Theory says,

“The key to becoming successful is to work so ridiculously hard at acquiring skills that when people see how good you are they just assume you’re naturally talented.”

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Dear Readers,

My challenge for you today is to challenge your subconscious mental thought patterns and habits. Question your joy, question your anger, question your frustration, what is the culprit of these thoughts? If your current thoughts are not serving you well, how can you consciously replace different thoughts with your current ones?”

Please feel free to comment below or contact me for further discussion. We are all in the game of life together, let’s figure out how to beat the current level and move on to the NEXT!

Cheers,
Joanne

Beat Procrastination through the Practice of Eating That Frog

We have a million and one things to do on a daily basis. As soon as our eyes open in the morning, most of us begin to count all the items on the to-do-list for the day; people to see and places to go. I’m not sure about you but it can become quite an overwhelming affair as my part brain is trying to wake up mindfully and the other is trying to steal the mindful thoughts away.

We can’t avoid the to-do-list, but we can do the following:

SET YOUR INTENTION. What is your WIN for today? 

Imagine the last time you did something for work or for yourself that made you feel like you’re walking on clouds. A decision you made that made you want to text all your best friends with the news. That is the win for the day. It can be something as simple as I cleaned the house today, to, I decided to quit my job, etc. However, anchoring your intention for the day allows us to base our daily emotions and decisions on the following question: “does this add or subtract from my intention?

EAT THAT FROG.

Brian Tracy, author of Eat That Frog,  elaborates on the reasons we procrastinate, and how to prevent it. He says we procrastinate because of confusion due to the number of things we have to do. In the midst of the anxiousness we wake up to, we forget that we have to break down and tackle our goals one STEP at a time… similar to eating a meal one BITE at a time.

What is the biggest, most important, thing you have to complete today? It may not be the most time consuming, it may not be the hardest project to complete, but it will leave you feeling accomplished, less worried, and able to push forward on the daily goals one step at a time. For more on this book, click the link above or watch the following animated book summary.

Easier said than done.

But through practice, day by day, eating the frog becomes easier and easier.